Married men how would you feel if your former mistress...?

What you have to realize is that your "mistress" knows how much pain she would be causing if your wife ever found out. She's also causing herself pain by being with someone who will never leave his wife. She genuinely loves you, but you, on the other hand, are married, have been so for 10 years, and you haven't left your wife for her, even though the relationship you had with her was on the side. Forget about how you feel, and think about the pain that your causing her, and the potential pain that you're causing for your WIFE.